Gossip

GOSSIP

Why is it that we talk about other people? Is it possible to stop gossiping? We know it’s often useless and even wasteful of time to gossip. But our minds are such that we forget or rather lose our awareness, become inattentive and start doing things mechanically as if in a sleep. It gives us pleasure to gossip about others; and at the time of gossiping, we rarely ask, ‘What am I doing?’ and so we never wake up. But why start the activity at all? What prompts us to do so? Is it our inward poverty, the deep loneliness and emptiness in us which needs fulfillment?

We live in images and we always compare one image with another. This comparison tells us that we’re nothing; and the desire to be somebody apparently brings conflict or tension. In order to have peace, we resort to gossiping as an escape. 

Why is the mind so restless and always moving from one thing to another in order to have entertainment? It’s always occupied with something or other such as sex, food, a sport, children, ideas, feelings etc because if it is not so, we find ourselves badly uncertain and afraid of being unoccupied, empty and lost. It makes us realize that we are very lonely. To avoid that disturbing loneliness and to try to forget it, we wrongly resort to gossiping which is one of the many innumerable occupations of the mind. 

But all these occupations of the mind are related with external things, persons, activities and ideas and none of them are any helpful. One escapes from one external thing to another and remains imprisoned in the vicious circle. The loneliness with its misery deepens and the trouble continues. 

Our education and social nature not only can’t help, they even unhelp. You cannot depend on anything and anybody to get rid of this restlessness. You must ask only yourself and find the answer. But if you start thinking about how to get rid of it or how to suppress it, you will end up in more restlessness. So the best way is to stop thinking about the activity and just watch it going on silently. Let the activity go on without you being active or interested in it. Just attend to it totally. It’ll go.

Gossip is an enemy by its own right. It stops you from being sensitive, alert and intelligent. It is against spiritual progress, the real progress which we can actually have as our own indestructible asset. Gossip destroys our entire purpose of being a human being. It's like a disease that trouble not only the individual who gossips but also the whole humanity by degrading both parties. In that, this idle talk about others is the enemy of the mankind too. 

Don't gossip and don't react to anybody's gossip either, by being only an indifferent  witness.

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Accidents and Diseases

ACCIDENTS AND DISEASES

Accidents and diseases are like flowers with a disgusting smell and an unbearable appearance. They are like branches and leaves of a tree that are clearly visible to the external eye. They grow on the human body that has roots as invisible as the underground roots of a real tree. 

Just as the flowers and leaves grow on the branches and the branches on the tree trunk that depends on its invisible roots for its survival; your visible diseases and accidents grow on your body that is rooted in its invisible mind. The body is the outgrowth of the mind.

If you cut off a tree branch in order to solve the problem, three more will appear there and overwhelm you. So, unless you cut off the roots, your problem will persist. Likewise, you have to cleanse your mind clean before you can actually have a grip on the diseases and accidents in you life.

What is human mind?

Except for a few people like yogis, no one can ordinarily see the mind in the form of aura although it can be photographed with the help of Kirilian photography. Since it can be photographed and also seen, it has matter in it. The body is the gross mind and the mind is the subtle body. Both are matter.

Our mind is full of thoughts, feelings, emotions and attitudes. Without these, there is only consciousness which is energy with the capacity of knowing. So, the mind is that consciousness which has impurities in it. It is a disturbed consciousness like a pool of water in commotion.

If the mind is a forest, it has thought trees growing in it. No trees, no forest; and likewise, no thoughts no mind. The cessation of thoughts is the end of the mind and also the end of the body and its disease and accidents. It is as simple as that.

The types of diseases with their various names appear in our bodies precisely according to our various attitudes in our mind.

So, how can we drop the thoughts, feelings, emotions and attitudes so that we can get rid of diseases and accidents? Have you seen anyone in your life doing that? The answer to this is a single word called 'meditation'. You can learn this knack in order to go into that sate of no mind where there are no thoughts, feelings, emotions and attitudes. It is available to almost everyone of us; only the journey is a bit more arduous than going to the moon. There are rare people who have succeeded in stopping their brain waves to shut down their brain functioning completely defying clinical indications for short periods of time.

All negative attitudes are sins and there are no other sins apart from these. Diseases and accidents are the result as a punishment for these sins. You cannot sin and avoid punishment. That's a higher law much above your courts and legal system which are only a trifle.Even death cannot help you avoid this punishment.

Not all trees give the same fruit and at the same time. Some bring fruit in a couple of months, others take years and some don't yield even in your life time. But no sin will go unpunished. There is a famous saying that the wages of sin is death but this is only partly true. Death does not solve all your problems and so, suicide is an illusion. Paying for your sins and cessation of committing further sins is the only solution. Meditation is the path. 

Our mind stores our sins in its conscious, subconscious or unconscious levels. Meditation is a journey into these deep levels to stop further accumulation of sins. As the store of sins becomes and also remains empty at last, no diseases or accidents can visit you. You are free, a liberated soul. 

No disease or accident comes to you of its own. It was your choice made unconsciously in the past. Our nearsightedness of an ant does not allow us to see as far as an eagle sees and we don't know what sins we accumulated long ago in our long journey of consciousness. As we wake up through meditation, we stop calling bad names in pain even to inanimate objects when we hit our heads against them. Actually, we should be thankful to them that give us pain because one more sin has been paid for. But instead, we become angry and commit another sin to give further continuity to accidents and diseases. We got to wake up and see this cause and effect concept in action.

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Marriage and Children

MARRIAGE AND CHILDREN

In this YouTube video, a Nepali journalist is heard asking a celebrity beauty a single question, repeatedly as if he is singing a typical Nepali folk song; and the question is, 

'Why are you not going to get married?'

It struck me why this question is so important for this journalist and not for the lady because she kept on telling him it did not matter much to her and she was not interested in it at all.

What is a marriage?

As far as the Nepali society is concerned, a marriage for most women is actually slavery. They leave their virgin liberty behind and accept slavery in which they neither own any property legally nor are entitled for wages for the work they do at their so-called new home. 

Parents and relatives exert tremendous pressure on marriageable girls as this journalist in the video mentioned above does and the weak headed give in with little opposition. Few have guts to oppose; so they easily accept the traditionally prescribed roles of daughters, wives, mothers etc at the expense of their personality. But personality cannot be sacrificed for parents, husbands, children and other members of the society.  

A marriage is a social phenomenon. Without marriage, they are a beloved and a lover in relationship which is fluid, alive and flowing. As they cannot take each other for granted, they have to keep doing up their love each moment. 

But what happens when they get married? 

It becomes a legal affair now. And along with law, things like economics, politics and society get entrance into love. Love is a very private affair between two persons and marriage is an exposed public phenomenon. The relationship is no longer a natural one but has become artificial and clumsy. As soon as they become husband and wife, they have certain functions and eventually these functions or roles will become so imperative that love is displaced. The joy and the liveliness of love is gone. 

In every marriage, each partner tends to take the other for granted and their minds start dominating. This politics of the mind poisons the marriage. With legal and social support, they think their relationship is never going to break up. but soon, love disappears and hate takes over. Life becomes so poisoned that each starts longing death to the other. This often happens in a so-called love relationship too where the partners are not very conscious. Peace, bliss and joy disappear. 

How can one live in this way one’s whole life?  

It’s not that everyone is doomed to live that way. It’s possible to live differently in love, joy, peace and bliss but one must become very conscious. Both the partners can help each other to live a fulfilled life. Once both of them attain higher consciousness, having children can be no problem. If both are conscious of everything they are doing, saying, feeling and thinking, they can also be conscious during lovemaking. They can make it meditative in full awareness. It’s possible to invite a higher soul to be born as their baby in awareness. Unconscious lovemaking can give birth to low grade souls and that can be a great trouble for them in life. Have we not seen some babies born handicapped and sick? Whose fault is that? Because we are not aware of many things about life, we use the word ‘fate’ and avoid responsibility.  

The first thing to consider for having a baby is what to do to invite a higher soul to be born as your child. The second important thing is to know what a mother has to do to construct the right emotional and physical health of the baby before it is born. A pregnant mother is not one person but two. There are two souls in her body and every feeling and emotion affects both. If the mother becomes angry during pregnancy, it’s likely that the baby she’ll give birth will grow up into an angry person. Sometimes a pregnant mother may become angry without any seeming cause. This is so because the soul she is carrying in her womb is of that type. So you see, a lot of preparation is needed before you can have a child. 

A meaningful and fulfilled life is one which brings progress in consciousness. Husbands and wives can help each other to attain this. Lovemaking can be employed to transform sex energy into spiritual energy. You can stop the downward and outward flow of sex energy through effort and practice. Sex energy can rise upwards and activate her glands releasing tremendous energy and power in her. It’ll help her attain her soul. This relationship will be now a relationship between souls and hence spiritual. A child born through spiritual union between the mother and the father will be different from the one born through sexual or animal love. Most babies born today are without planning. That is why the present day world is so chaotic and devoid of order everywhere. 

If our love relationship is based on instinct, it is biological and hormonal. We are at the mercy of chemicals that are called neurotransmitters. It is animal and the lowest. Love as a quality of being for one and all is human and love not just as a quality but you becoming love itself is divine. The last stage can happen only when we become fully aware i.e. we are in meditation. This love will have the power to fill us with inner light and we will have attained divinity. A divine soul can be attracted to be born as our child now. A Son of God is born only through a Mary.

Another important thing to consider about marriage is the exchange of sex energy in order to bring balance between male energy and female energy existing disproportionately in one's body. This balance is liberation. That is why widows are not allowed in a selfish patriarchal society to marry again. She brings her late husband's energy with her. Why not this applies to a widower is anybody's guess.

Women in a patriarchal society are often maltreated as if they are commodities. An ignorant husband can turn a woman’s life into a hell. Newspaper reports conform that husbands beat and torture women. According to a past newspaper report in Nepal, 25 university graduate women in a conference declared that they were abused physically and mentally by their husbands for dowry, fashion, phone calls from men, speaking to males, inability to satiate sexual lust of the husband etc. Laws don’t help much and marriage is there to be saved. Some commit suicide and many are murdered, all because of marriage. Marriage is as much hateful as the family based on it is. 

Love liberates while marriage enslaves.

Understanding

UNDERSTANDING AND THOUGHTS

 

Freedom is necessary to understand and you are not free from the contents of your mind. You can understand something only intellectually.

Intellectual understanding is not total understanding because it is still a mental process and the mind is in fragments and therefore partial. It is not whole. Only a part of our mind operates when we are thinking about a particular thing. For example, when we are dealing with problems of mathematics or logic, a tiny part of the left brain becomes active and the rest of the mind-brain remains in darkness. There’s no understanding taking place in most part of the brain. So whatever we understand intellectually is almost no understanding.

To understand something deeply and widely, it’s necessary to be free from our mind to see the thing clearly. But we are never free i.e. our mind is never free from thoughts. There are always thoughts arising one after another incessantly. We are helplessly unable to stop them. 

What are thoughts and where do they come from?

Thoughts are reactions or responses of our consciousness to stimuli that enter into our consciousness through our sense organs. These responses are direct thoughts. Indirectly, we start to think when there arise responses to our memories stored in our brain. We have our memories from our knowledge. This knowledge is from our past experiences through our sense organs. Experience denies us clear observation because it’s sensation which is actually a response to stimuli like light, heat, smell, sound etc. Experience may be of a very wide range or extensive but it’s always limited and partial that is experience is never whole or total. Sensation is endless because it’s mechanical and automatic for us, the lazy and sleepy. The desire to experience is, therefore, endless as well. The greater the desire we have, the more the experience we gather. Ambition is sure to breed the sensation of power and capacity. So experience is an enemy of humility which is so much necessary for learning. All experiences are impressions made in our mind-brains and they color and distort every later experience. So no experience can be new nor can any thought be so.  We see something not sensitively but with sensation and give a name to it and that name is the cause of thought. If we observe sensitively with our total energy totally absorbed in the act, from moment to moment without naming or analyzing, there is no thought and therefore no thinker. It’s pure observation. The whole of the mind-brain becomes alert and active.

But the mind-brain never becomes totally alert and active except momentarily during sexual acts. Or else, we are always with our thoughts and our mind is crowded with them. So, when we hear something and try to listen to it with our mind we do so only with a fraction of our energy. We don’t attend to it with all our energy. We lack energy for total listening with all our mind and heart because most of our energy is tied to other thoughts in the mind. Our mind is always chattering and is full of its own noises. Some of our energy attends to them. Therefore whatever we listen from our mad mind is bound to be partial and incomplete. That prevents clear and total understanding. 

What you listen is not as important as how you listen.


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Education

THE PURPOSE OF EDUCATION

What’s the purpose of studying in a university? Is not it that one learns in a university about all that has happened in the history of mankind? You’ll learn how humans have journeyed from the beginning, through millennia and up to now. You’ll know how man has struggled against nature and also against man. The history of man is a story of struggle and wars. Man has never been free from wars in spite of education. Education doesn’t seem to have helped man get rid of brute violence. It has even helped him to be a more efficient killer and destroyer than previously he had ever been. Both mankind and nature seem to be at the mercy of education. Education has turned out to be an illusion, a danger for the mankind. It has failed in training man to have peace, love and freedom. That’s why there’s been so much suffering from all kinds of diseases, wars, political persecution, religious torture, cultural domination etc in the world. Civilizations have fought against civilizations to blot out each other. The last two world wars are a testimony to this sad plight. Cultural clashes are more rampant now than before. The educated man’s consciousness is full of violence, fear, aggressiveness, cruelty, anxiety and discrimination. There’s no love and joy and peace. Is that what education is meant for? 

Today, every child is abused right from its birth by the parents and then the society helps prepare it to kill and to be killed in competition and in war. This has been done for centuries from the beginning of the civilization. Each so-called organized religion preaches for love, humanity and universal brotherhood but when you say you’re a Hindu Brahmin, don’t you see a division, a wall between you and the rest of the world? To understand all that intellectually is easy but when it comes for you, a Brahmin, to marry a Shudra, your subconscious will make you shrink. Your parents will always look for a Brahmin youth for you. Our likes and dislikes are guided by our social, cultural, national, religious and racial differences. We are never free from these manacles and our behavior will always be predictable like that of a machine’s. If your university education doesn’t help open your eyes to see and understand who you are in essence, I think it’s worth very little. It must be able to develop in you that intelligence or sensitivity which is integral, all encompassing and total. It shouldn’t be the kind of intelligence that a university gives to the scientists. Such intelligence is partial and destructive. That’s not sensitivity but just refinement which is not integral but partial. 

Sensitivity is always total. That means it is either in you or you’re devoid of it. When it is there in you, it gives you clear seeing and understanding of facts. There is no pleasure in such seeing and understanding. It is abstemious. Unlike refinement, sensitivity has nothing to do with education, culture, environment and the like. Refinement has pleasure and it’s the product of desire and will. It’s an endless torturing activity that you get tied up to; you keep trying to remain fashionable and up-to-date in dress, ideas, food, and living style all the time. Refinement and image formation walk side by side. Education systems can help in refinement of your mind but rarely increase your sensitivity. 

There’s illusion in refinement. A scientist’s intelligence is so near-sighted that no sooner have the scientists solved one problem than a bigger problem is born out of it. It is as if the size of man’s stupidity is trying to keep up with the size of the ever expanding universe. This is sheer madness and no one seems to notice this stupidity. How mediocre! This kind of knowledge seems to be more ignorance than knowledge. For instance, somebody broke the atom, perhaps, thinking that it’d solve the energy crisis; but today, that very information has become a menace to all including the humanity. Was it any worth? As long as the mankind continues to grow more and more neurotic day by day, it’ll be never safe from its own knowledge. Our medicines help a leper get clean, healthy and strong and he goes on a killing and raping spree and ends up in a jail. You may argue that not everyone does that. But what else they do? What I’m saying is that our knowledge is helping us to become more dangerous and it’s doing it to every one of us. How? You know that more and more people are getting educated, skilled, rich, powerful, healthy and strong at the present time than a couple of centuries ago. But no one seems to be getting any more peaceful, loving and wiser than the people of previous generations. They are as violent, aggressive, and brutal as before and even more than that. With or without technology, thoughts are reaching everyone from everyone and since we don’t have any positive thoughts the situation is exacerbating. One must have intelligence to see this danger which future mankind is going to face. How are we going to face? How have we always faced problems?

Man has always used thinking power as a problem solver and this method has never been able to eradicate problems totally. We can’t depend any longer on any ideas of any scientist, philosopher, economist, educationist, so-called religious leader or politician. All have failed visibly and evidently. Is there a way out which is different from the way we’ve always resorted to?

Pursuit of pleasure has become so important that it’s our main pre-occupation. We have forgotten the fragrance of love. There’s no joy in our life. Will you have found the basic meaning of what love is by the time you’ll have finished your university education? What we call love is sensation, sexual pleasure, living together for exploitation and selfishness. That cannot be love, can it? There’s no beauty in such relationship and we call that love. Don’t you think love in its basic meaning can be an alternative to solve the problems of life?

The greatest teaching one can ever have is to attain freedom. Will your education be capable of pointing at the door to freedom? It may or may not, but whatever it is, you yourselves have to try to attain freedom. External freedom is no freedom at all. It’s inner freedom, the freedom from ideas and thoughts that counts. You must be able to attain it but you’ll never have it as long as you are rooted in your past. You have to learn to be free from your thoughts and even if it becomes difficult, you must know and be able at least to know what to do to be free so that at times you can slip into thoughtlessness for a while. This will enable you to get rid of your mechanical life in order to have spontaneity. 

Thirdly, this education should be able to tell you what a human life is for. As you know, life in any form is a journey of consciousness. It’s been on a journey called evolution and man is at the summit of that endless journey. So, human life is different in at least one way from all other forms of life. We’re the most conscious of all and we’re endowed with thinking capacity. Therefore, we have the freedom to choose either to go up or to go down. The danger is that we can easily go down. But there’s also the possibility that we unlike other creatures can also do something to increase our consciousness and become super conscious human beings on our own. So to live a meaningful human life is to do something to increase consciousness or sensitivity.  

Talking with the students, one can observe how afraid they are. They seem to be talking and doing things in sleep and also as if they are machines. It’s so sad. Don’t you see their inward poverty which they are trying to camouflage in their latest dress, hairstyle, words, knowledge and such outward appearance?  They’re studying today to become slaves of money, fame and such trifles. Most of them will be using their education and so-called knowledge to buy vegetables and foodstuff like that someday. Is that what this university education is for? I hope you’ll see the mediocrity of all this. Why study in a university at all for such trifles? Even people who never have any formal education are doing that so well. The university students are as they are because they’re more interested in papers than in quality education. They don’t have enough energy to employ in understanding things. They’re happy to follow what their professors tell them because that’s easy. So they take down all the things told by others or written in books and think they know. That’s not real learning. This doesn’t give you insight. Someone’s knowledge is not your knowledge. It must come from you; and that’s what is really hard. That’s one reason why students take interest in politics. They fail to grow up mentally let alone spiritually and must depend on somebody in power to give them a living. If you are going to be a slave, a follower, like the majority, then I don’t see any vital purpose in this university education for you. I expect, students' behavior, dress, food, speech, appearance, thinking, relationships with people, things, ideas and all else will be scientific, natural and conscious but not imitative at all. Their response to life will be based on intelligence and wisdom of integral order. They’ll try to see the truth themselves and not just accept everything mechanically from their professors, from me, from one and many. In short, they’ll be true human beings making good use of their neocortex. Their responses to every challenge will be spontaneous, sane and rational. It’ll not be competitive, ideal, prejudiced, mechanical and neurotic. They’ll be a light unto themselves. Whatever it is, the ultimate purpose of their education should be attainment of truth, joy, love and freedom. 

Keep off politics. Students going into politics kill the entire purpose of being a student. It’s only the least intelligent who get into politics. In the scale of intelligence ranging from 1 to 7, most politicians are stuck at 2 because they’ve left the sex center and have the next center svadhisthan as their main place of activity. Dominating others is the per-occupation at this center. Some politicians move ahead to the next center and become famous as writers, painters, poets etc. too. It’s just a step ahead of thumb-sucking infantile stage of masturbatory period and there are no less than five more steps to go ahead. But politics seems to have engulfed all these mediocre university going people. You don’t have to do anything to serve anybody or anything as long as you have no knowledge of yourselves first. Without the knack of self knowing, you’re a blind person. How can you ever know whether you are helping or not if you are unconscious yourselves in the first place? Let the darkness of illusion or ill vision go first so that you’ll be able to see the truth. Then and only then, anything is possible or else you’ll swim in the mire along with other political leaders, social workers, educationists, religious leaders etc who wrongly think they are doing a great service to others. Fully conscious, anything even murder you commit will be right; without being conscious everything that’s accepted as good and right by the majority will be wrong. 

Education should teach you how to think and also not to think.

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