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Blessings and the Dashain

The Dashain Season of Blessings

 

The Dashain is a time for Tika and blessings.

Showering someone with blessings is a spiritual act which is practiced in all the religions of the world and has been practiced for thousands of years. 

Now, may we ask fondly if the blessings have worked? 

No sociologist has collected any data about this; nor has science proved it. But then, science hasn't proved any thing against it either.

If a blessing is a wish and therefore a thought; then, how is it different from any other thought? What attitude is behind this thought called blessing?

Masaru Emoto  has proved in his scientifically controversial experiments that a person's attitude can change matter. A loving attitude can produce invariably different shaped crystals of blessed water from cursed water when frozen. It means both blessings and curses work; and this may be the reason why, of all the rivers in the world, the Ganges and its holy water is different. The Catholics also use blessed  holy water.

Apparently, people who have developed this skill of blessing can bless for a visible result without any doubt; and all those modern monkeys who bless without any skill developed in them may be even dangerous to have blessings from.

Emoto shows us that attitude is very important; and the stronger an attitude is, the more effective its impact will be. In order to be effective, one has to practice; and develop a very strong attitude before blessing anyone. It is a spiritual practice, an inner journey; and is available.

Drunvalo, a spiritual teacher, warns against careless blessings. According to him, if you bless someone with a fragmented mind, your blessing will invariably become a curse. In a real blessing, the act calls for the involvement of total energy like in sadamanaskam arghyam which means offering is that mind which is constantly arrowed to That. Modern physics knows much about energy but it still does not have much to tell us about what conscious energy is like.

If, with practice, you can develop your mind to have no thought and then allow it to have a single thought without any wavering at the time of blessing, then bless or else stop cursing your children. The higher laws have no excuse for ignorance.

Tika and the Dashain

  The Importance of Tika and the Dashain

Among the numerous religious festivals, the Dashain is considered to be the greatest of all by the Hindu. It is a national festival in Nepal and India where the population is predominantly Hindu. It is also the longest festival of all. As the Janeupurnima is the main festival for the priestly caste, so is the Dashain for the warrior caste. It being the festival of the rulers, its long duration is understood. This festival comes mostly in the month of October every year but the date varies.

The festival is celebrated for at least ten days starting with Ghatasthapana when people sow seeds in a vessel or Ghata for seedlings to be used on the 10th day. Schools, colleges and government offices close and people come to their homes from far and near to celebrate this festival. Every day of the festival has its important rituals to perform. 

The 10th day is called Tika in Nepal and it is the most important day. Even those people, who find it difficult to arrive home earlier, try to come and be at home on this day. The sole aim of this day is to receive Tika, Jamara and blessings from the elder members of the family. Some go to temples to receive Tika from the temple priest in case there is no one from whom to receive at home. In Kathmandu, people go to Pashupatinath temple and in those times when kings ruled Nepal, many people went to the palace to have Tika from the king. 

What is Tika and why do people have it from their elders? 

Tika is also known as Tilak. It is applied on the forehead. The science behind the application of Tika or Tilak is connected with the renowned third eye or the eye of Shiva. 

Is there such an eye apart from the two physical eyes we all have? 

The answer is positive and this so-called third eye is also a physical eye. In biology, it is known as the pineal gland in our brain. The pineal gland is shaped like an eye and it is located a little below the surface of the forehead. It is said to be equidistant from the two eyes. It is not blind but inactive because of remaining unused for a long time. It can be activated through effort. It is said that the third eye is hungry for consciousness and if you feed it with consciousness, it will become active. Once it becomes active, one realizes for the first time that one is not blind. With the activation of the third eye, many uncanny psychic powers are activated and one no longer remains weak and helpless. That is the spiritual aspect of Tika during the Dashain.

Tika is applied on this day by someone who knows where the pineal gland of a person is located. The location is not same for everyone. This is the day when younger people are shown the spot where they have to apply tika starting from that day. As one applies tika, one's consciousness moves to the pineal gland and the latter starts to become active when it receives sufficient attention. If it becomes active within one year, it is ok but if it doesn't, the person has to go to the elder to spot the location because, the location of the pineal gland shifts to a bit lower position. In the ancient times, the activation of the pineal gland was thought to be so important that a festival was planned and it became a tradition which has come down to us. Thus Tika is not for only Hindus but also for all human beings for spiritual progress. So, do you see the science and beauty behind Tika and the Dashain?

Never apply Tika to the wrong place and it is also harmful for women to apply fancy tikas from the market for cosmetic purposes. It may help you become stupid. Learn it from a person who has the skill to find out your third eye and apply tilak there every day. Its cooling effect will draw your attention often to your pineal gland and eventually, it will become active either sooner or later according to the amount of impressions or samskaras you have accumulated in your subconscious.

Gossip

GOSSIP

Why is it that we talk about other people? Is it possible to stop gossiping? We know it’s often useless and even wasteful of time to gossip. But our minds are such that we forget or rather lose our awareness, become inattentive and start doing things mechanically as if in a sleep. It gives us pleasure to gossip about others; and at the time of gossiping, we rarely ask, ‘What am I doing?’ and so we never wake up. But why start the activity at all? What prompts us to do so? Is it our inward poverty, the deep loneliness and emptiness in us which needs fulfillment?

We live in images and we always compare one image with another. This comparison tells us that we’re nothing; and the desire to be somebody apparently brings conflict or tension. In order to have peace, we resort to gossiping as an escape. 

Why is the mind so restless and always moving from one thing to another in order to have entertainment? It’s always occupied with something or other such as sex, food, a sport, children, ideas, feelings etc because if it is not so, we find ourselves badly uncertain and afraid of being unoccupied, empty and lost. It makes us realize that we are very lonely. To avoid that disturbing loneliness and to try to forget it, we wrongly resort to gossiping which is one of the many innumerable occupations of the mind. 

But all these occupations of the mind are related with external things, persons, activities and ideas and none of them are any helpful. One escapes from one external thing to another and remains imprisoned in the vicious circle. The loneliness with its misery deepens and the trouble continues. 

Our education and social nature not only can’t help, they even unhelp. You cannot depend on anything and anybody to get rid of this restlessness. You must ask only yourself and find the answer. But if you start thinking about how to get rid of it or how to suppress it, you will end up in more restlessness. So the best way is to stop thinking about the activity and just watch it going on silently. Let the activity go on without you being active or interested in it. Just attend to it totally. It’ll go.

Gossip is an enemy by its own right. It stops you from being sensitive, alert and intelligent. It is against spiritual progress, the real progress which we can actually have as our own indestructible asset. Gossip destroys our entire purpose of being a human being. It's like a disease that trouble not only the individual who gossips but also the whole humanity by degrading both parties. In that, this idle talk about others is the enemy of the mankind too. 

Don't gossip and don't react to anybody's gossip either, by being only an indifferent  witness.

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Accidents and Diseases

ACCIDENTS AND DISEASES

Accidents and diseases are like flowers with a disgusting smell and an unbearable appearance. They are like branches and leaves of a tree that are clearly visible to the external eye. They grow on the human body that has roots as invisible as the underground roots of a real tree. 

Just as the flowers and leaves grow on the branches and the branches on the tree trunk that depends on its invisible roots for its survival; your visible diseases and accidents grow on your body that is rooted in its invisible mind. The body is the outgrowth of the mind.

If you cut off a tree branch in order to solve the problem, three more will appear there and overwhelm you. So, unless you cut off the roots, your problem will persist. Likewise, you have to cleanse your mind clean before you can actually have a grip on the diseases and accidents in you life.

What is human mind?

Except for a few people like yogis, no one can ordinarily see the mind in the form of aura although it can be photographed with the help of Kirilian photography. Since it can be photographed and also seen, it has matter in it. The body is the gross mind and the mind is the subtle body. Both are matter.

Our mind is full of thoughts, feelings, emotions and attitudes. Without these, there is only consciousness which is energy with the capacity of knowing. So, the mind is that consciousness which has impurities in it. It is a disturbed consciousness like a pool of water in commotion.

If the mind is a forest, it has thought trees growing in it. No trees, no forest; and likewise, no thoughts no mind. The cessation of thoughts is the end of the mind and also the end of the body and its disease and accidents. It is as simple as that.

The types of diseases with their various names appear in our bodies precisely according to our various attitudes in our mind.

So, how can we drop the thoughts, feelings, emotions and attitudes so that we can get rid of diseases and accidents? Have you seen anyone in your life doing that? The answer to this is a single word called 'meditation'. You can learn this knack in order to go into that sate of no mind where there are no thoughts, feelings, emotions and attitudes. It is available to almost everyone of us; only the journey is a bit more arduous than going to the moon. There are rare people who have succeeded in stopping their brain waves to shut down their brain functioning completely defying clinical indications for short periods of time.

All negative attitudes are sins and there are no other sins apart from these. Diseases and accidents are the result as a punishment for these sins. You cannot sin and avoid punishment. That's a higher law much above your courts and legal system which are only a trifle.Even death cannot help you avoid this punishment.

Not all trees give the same fruit and at the same time. Some bring fruit in a couple of months, others take years and some don't yield even in your life time. But no sin will go unpunished. There is a famous saying that the wages of sin is death but this is only partly true. Death does not solve all your problems and so, suicide is an illusion. Paying for your sins and cessation of committing further sins is the only solution. Meditation is the path. 

Our mind stores our sins in its conscious, subconscious or unconscious levels. Meditation is a journey into these deep levels to stop further accumulation of sins. As the store of sins becomes and also remains empty at last, no diseases or accidents can visit you. You are free, a liberated soul. 

No disease or accident comes to you of its own. It was your choice made unconsciously in the past. Our nearsightedness of an ant does not allow us to see as far as an eagle sees and we don't know what sins we accumulated long ago in our long journey of consciousness. As we wake up through meditation, we stop calling bad names in pain even to inanimate objects when we hit our heads against them. Actually, we should be thankful to them that give us pain because one more sin has been paid for. But instead, we become angry and commit another sin to give further continuity to accidents and diseases. We got to wake up and see this cause and effect concept in action.

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Marriage and Children

MARRIAGE AND CHILDREN

In this YouTube video, a Nepali journalist is heard asking a celebrity beauty a single question, repeatedly as if he is singing a typical Nepali folk song; and the question is, 

'Why are you not going to get married?'

It struck me why this question is so important for this journalist and not for the lady because she kept on telling him it did not matter much to her and she was not interested in it at all.

What is a marriage?

As far as the Nepali society is concerned, a marriage for most women is actually slavery. They leave their virgin liberty behind and accept slavery in which they neither own any property legally nor are entitled for wages for the work they do at their so-called new home. 

Parents and relatives exert tremendous pressure on marriageable girls as this journalist in the video mentioned above does and the weak headed give in with little opposition. Few have guts to oppose; so they easily accept the traditionally prescribed roles of daughters, wives, mothers etc at the expense of their personality. But personality cannot be sacrificed for parents, husbands, children and other members of the society.  

A marriage is a social phenomenon. Without marriage, they are a beloved and a lover in relationship which is fluid, alive and flowing. As they cannot take each other for granted, they have to keep doing up their love each moment. 

But what happens when they get married? 

It becomes a legal affair now. And along with law, things like economics, politics and society get entrance into love. Love is a very private affair between two persons and marriage is an exposed public phenomenon. The relationship is no longer a natural one but has become artificial and clumsy. As soon as they become husband and wife, they have certain functions and eventually these functions or roles will become so imperative that love is displaced. The joy and the liveliness of love is gone. 

In every marriage, each partner tends to take the other for granted and their minds start dominating. This politics of the mind poisons the marriage. With legal and social support, they think their relationship is never going to break up. but soon, love disappears and hate takes over. Life becomes so poisoned that each starts longing death to the other. This often happens in a so-called love relationship too where the partners are not very conscious. Peace, bliss and joy disappear. 

How can one live in this way one’s whole life?  

It’s not that everyone is doomed to live that way. It’s possible to live differently in love, joy, peace and bliss but one must become very conscious. Both the partners can help each other to live a fulfilled life. Once both of them attain higher consciousness, having children can be no problem. If both are conscious of everything they are doing, saying, feeling and thinking, they can also be conscious during lovemaking. They can make it meditative in full awareness. It’s possible to invite a higher soul to be born as their baby in awareness. Unconscious lovemaking can give birth to low grade souls and that can be a great trouble for them in life. Have we not seen some babies born handicapped and sick? Whose fault is that? Because we are not aware of many things about life, we use the word ‘fate’ and avoid responsibility.  

The first thing to consider for having a baby is what to do to invite a higher soul to be born as your child. The second important thing is to know what a mother has to do to construct the right emotional and physical health of the baby before it is born. A pregnant mother is not one person but two. There are two souls in her body and every feeling and emotion affects both. If the mother becomes angry during pregnancy, it’s likely that the baby she’ll give birth will grow up into an angry person. Sometimes a pregnant mother may become angry without any seeming cause. This is so because the soul she is carrying in her womb is of that type. So you see, a lot of preparation is needed before you can have a child. 

A meaningful and fulfilled life is one which brings progress in consciousness. Husbands and wives can help each other to attain this. Lovemaking can be employed to transform sex energy into spiritual energy. You can stop the downward and outward flow of sex energy through effort and practice. Sex energy can rise upwards and activate her glands releasing tremendous energy and power in her. It’ll help her attain her soul. This relationship will be now a relationship between souls and hence spiritual. A child born through spiritual union between the mother and the father will be different from the one born through sexual or animal love. Most babies born today are without planning. That is why the present day world is so chaotic and devoid of order everywhere. 

If our love relationship is based on instinct, it is biological and hormonal. We are at the mercy of chemicals that are called neurotransmitters. It is animal and the lowest. Love as a quality of being for one and all is human and love not just as a quality but you becoming love itself is divine. The last stage can happen only when we become fully aware i.e. we are in meditation. This love will have the power to fill us with inner light and we will have attained divinity. A divine soul can be attracted to be born as our child now. A Son of God is born only through a Mary.

Another important thing to consider about marriage is the exchange of sex energy in order to bring balance between male energy and female energy existing disproportionately in one's body. This balance is liberation. That is why widows are not allowed in a selfish patriarchal society to marry again. She brings her late husband's energy with her. Why not this applies to a widower is anybody's guess.

Women in a patriarchal society are often maltreated as if they are commodities. An ignorant husband can turn a woman’s life into a hell. Newspaper reports conform that husbands beat and torture women. According to a past newspaper report in Nepal, 25 university graduate women in a conference declared that they were abused physically and mentally by their husbands for dowry, fashion, phone calls from men, speaking to males, inability to satiate sexual lust of the husband etc. Laws don’t help much and marriage is there to be saved. Some commit suicide and many are murdered, all because of marriage. Marriage is as much hateful as the family based on it is. 

Love liberates while marriage enslaves.